Looking for the root cause of a shift in attitude.
I'm frustrated. It goes hand-in-hand with parenting, some would say, but right now I'm particularly frustrated. Over dinner my oldest casually mentioned she'd been called into guidance again because a teacher was worried she wasn't acting herself. My husband and I exchanged a worried look and then launched a barrage of questions. What? What do you mean not acting yourself? What's going on? And what's this again business?
Of course rapid-fire questioning is not a way to get a tween to talk, but in our panicky and concerned state it was all we could think to do. The child looked, in turn, miserable and then angry as she blurted out, "I hate school okay! I just hate it!"
I know it's not unusual for children to claim they hate school but my child has always loved school. In spite of her ADHD she's maintained good grades and a healthy interest in her subjects, until now. I don't think it's a product of burgeoning adolescence.
The frustrating thing is that if she hadn't volunteered that she'd been called into guidance a few times, we'd never have known. If there is enough concern to warrant her being pulled from classes to discuss something, how is it we haven't been notified by the school that they are concerned?
I am frustrated because I don't know what to do for my child, more than what we already do. I am not there during the day, I don't see how she interacts at school, and I can only prod so much before she shuts down like a typical kid. Yes, I’ve contacted the school to discuss things, which I hope will help shed some light on the problem. The part that worries me most is the change from a happy engaged student to one who hates school in such a short time. I want to find a way to help her navigate her way back to the former, by finding out where things went south for her. But without information it’s like looking for a needle in a haystack.